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LIFE AFTER THE ARMY


Haynes accepted Greene’s invitation and made travel reservations for Chelsea, but things at home were still difficult. “On the day of the incident, I was again arguing with my wife.” Greene overheard some of it. “Gen. Greene called me into the office, and said, ‘Jeremy? Fix it.’ ” At first, Haynes said, he thought Greene was talking about the upcoming mission at Marshal Fahim National Defense University. Haynes said that he was surprised that Greene was talk- ing about that, questioning their readiness. Greene said, “ ‘You need to fix it, young man. Do I need to spell it out for you?’ ”


EXTENDED FAMILY


Sue Myers, Ph.D., smiles with three of the Haynes children, Jeremy Jr., Jeremiah and Jordon, at an athletic event.


he was going through some issues in his marriage, he said. Days before “the inci- dent,” as Haynes calls the shooting, he'd had a fight with his wife—an Army Reserve Soldier—that Greene overheard.


“A few days prior to the incident, I was arguing with my wife on the phone. Te boss walked in, and I abruptly hung up the phone. He stopped before my desk, removed his glasses, and gave me his signa- ture stare before telling me to fix it.”


Te men had a follow-up trip scheduled to NATO Headquarters in Brussels after briefings in Washington. Greene proposed that, after they got back from Washing- ton and were in Brussels, he was going to fly his wife, Dr. Susan Myers, a retired Army colonel, to Brussels. He suggested that Haynes do the same with his wife, Chelsea. Greene told Haynes, “ ‘I've been married for a long time and can relate to the frustration you both are dealing with.’ Greene offered to share life experiences and things they did to overcome obsta- cles and time apart.”


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Haynes said that he was embarrassed to have brought his personal issues to work with him. “But looking back on the situ- ation, the boss understood that serving is a shared sacrifice” that often includes unsung but courageous and self less spouses.


Greene told Haynes, “ ‘Tis is a shared journey. Not just for you, but for every- one who’s attached to you. …You’re here hurting; they're back there hurting. You're worried about this mission. …But the folks at home are worried about you.’ And he went on to tell me to value my relation- ships because, ‘Tere’s life after the Army. You'll be just fine,’ ” Haynes said.


“I walked out of the boss’s office and called my wife. While I was dialing her number, Gen. Greene stood in front of my desk as if he wanted to make sure I followed through…. I apologized but did not tell her that I loved her.”


Tat, Haynes said, could have been his last moment talking with his wife and he hadn't told her that he loved her.


A DIFFERENT “LIFE AFTER THE ARMY” Greene was right that there was life after the Army, except that Greene never got


Army AL&T Magazine Spring 2022


to taste it. Haynes almost didn't. He was among the 15 other people the gunman hit when Greene was killed. Haynes said that, immediately after the shooting, he lost consciousness. Ten, Haynes said, “When I opened my eyes, I thought everyone left. From where I lay, I could see no one. I remember a peer, Maj. Chris Foreman, lifting me up. Although he was shot in the leg, Chris disregarded his own wound and rushed to get me to an aid station.” Haynes said he remembered asking, “ ‘Where’s the boss, where's Gen. Greene?’ ” And then someone said, “ ‘Gen. Greene is fine, let’s just focus on you.’ ”


"There was never a dull moment with the boss. Regardless of how tense a situation might be, he had a gift for making everyone in the room calm. Often by telling a joke.”


While under care at Walter Reed National Medical Center, Haynes said, “I discov- ered that Greene had passed. I remember [Greene's widow] Dr. Myers holding my hand. I was so weak. I faintly squeezed her hand and told her, “You lost a husband, but you inherited another son.’ ”


During that recovery period, Haynes said that his wife told him how she first met Myers outside his intensive care unit room at Walter Reed. Myers looked at her and said, “Tis damn sure enough isn't Brus- sels,” and both began to laugh. Haynes said that that showed him how much


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